Many of may life coaching clients define themselves as not being confident – I used to too! By giving ourselves the IDENTITY of a person that lacks confidence, we make the problem much bigger than it is.
The truth is that we all have numerous areas in life where we do feel very confident. Maybe you are confident driving a car, doing certain tasks at work, cooking for a friend, writing an email, doing your chores at work…if you sit down and write down all the things that you do confidently every day, you will be surprised how many there are!
So you are confident in many areas of life! It’s not that black and white as we often talk about it. There are only certain areas in life where you may lack confidence or where your confidence is not yet as strong as you would like it to be, for example public speaking.
I break down the confidence topic for my life coaching clients so that they can see that the problem is much smaller than they make it. Rather than beating themselves up for being that non-confident person, they can move to tackling the specific areas in which they show less confidence than in others.
To stay with the example of public speaking, they could read a book about public speaking, practise it or get a life coach.
Breaking the issue down like this can make the journey much more manageable and joyful.
